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We Need to Normalize Autistic People as Caregivers, Lovers, and Healers
We need to normalize autistic people as caregivers, lovers, and healers. As an autistic person, I’ve experienced the most stigma and...
Zero (aka Charlie Nicely)
Oct 19, 20242 min read


Another Paradigm is Possible and it Will Ask Everything of Us
It's been such a profound year. I've come home to the light, joy, spaciousness, and connection that is most native to my entire system....
Zero (aka Charlie Nicely)
Sep 13, 20249 min read


The Power of Relationship Ruptures
Ruptures in relationships are a natural part of relational cycles. When we do repair work after ruptures have occurred, our nervous...
Zero (aka Charlie Nicely)
Aug 2, 20241 min read


Pleasure and Self-compassion
Your relationship with pleasure is positively correlated to your relationship with self-compassion. To the degree that you open to...
Zero (aka Charlie Nicely)
Apr 19, 20242 min read


Softness
And your sharp edges soften You can no longer enact self-harm through the company of those who harm themselves You are too soft for that...
Zero X
Apr 17, 20241 min read


To Die is the Privilege of a Lifetime
On October 15th, 2022 I stood at the end of a hospital bed and watched my father die due to an opioid overdose. After being taken off of...
Zero X
Jul 16, 20233 min read


Here's to Ugliness!
Growing up in Los Angeles, I’ve been pretty well saturated by, if not totally drown in, limited ideas of beauty. As a kid I used to model...
Zero X
Jul 6, 20232 min read


Four Ways to Maintain Social Connections with People Who Can’t Meet Us Emotionally
1. Relationship vs. relatedness. In a relationship we’re open and establish emotional reciprocity whereas in relatedness there’s...
Zero X
Jul 6, 20231 min read


Love Liberates, It Doesn't Hold
Nearly 18 years ago I gave birth to this magnificent human being. I can’t believe it’s been 18 years. This birthday feels bigger than...
Zero X
Jul 6, 20232 min read


Trust is Granted Not Earned
Our internal process about trust is based on past experiences, much of which have been experiences of disappointment, disconnection, and...
Zero X
Jul 6, 20231 min read


Love Is All
About 8 years ago, I wrote a relationship manifesto. It included the values, needs, and intentions that I had within relationship. That...
Zero X
May 21, 20233 min read


A Blurb About the Constructive Nature of Conflict
Conflict is a mechanism for learning how to love one another better. When we sweep conflict under the rug, the conflict has a tendency to...
Zero X
Apr 22, 20211 min read


What Creativity Taught Me About Perseverance
Creativity and art have been a central aspect of my life. There have been times in the past that were so bleak that I had little to live...
Zero X
Dec 7, 20191 min read
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